Comments on: Am I a Bad Mother?

By: Lala

Lala — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:47:44 +0000

hi Malika,
i don’t think you are a bad mother actually i can say it is a strong decision of a mother letting her child exposed to different kind of people and activities at an early age. What you’ve decided is not just for your own benefit, i mean it’s also for your daughter.. In daycare, she’ll get to know new people or friends and it will help her boost her self-confidence as she grow. I understand you, being preggy you’re getting so melodramatic.

By: Janice

Janice — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:40:20 +0000

Hello Malika,
Don’t feel bad about your daughter crying after you leave her at day care. That happened to me (years ago) but it also showed my daughter that parents have to leave sometimes, but they always come back. The interaction with other children far outweighs the momentary feeling that you are leaving — and the fact that when she turns around and sees the others waiting for her to interact with them, I believe, gives her a feeling of purpose and need of the others. Her crying is because she will miss you — not because she thinks you are leaving her there. Good luck with the new baby. And, in time, you may need to leave them both there a day or so a week, for your own personal growth. Everyone is different. Live by what feels right and works for you. I try not to judge people, and hope they don’t judge me if they haven’t walked in my shoes–and that would take a lot of time to walk in my 62 years of shoes! ~Janice

By: Bryan Risley

Bryan Risley — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:39:56 +0000

Malika – do what you feel you have to do. Certainly, there are a multitude of parents in your situation, many having given birth to twins that are exactly the same age, etc. This is nothing new as regards parenthood. However, the daycare cost doesn’t seem to be a concern and Ely does seem to learn a lot at daycare and will develop social skills by interacting with other kids – plus you get a bit of a relief. Considering your situation, it seems to be a win win for everyone. Ely is just a drama queen. I’ve seen it enough times with her mac and cheese. Don’t let the sad face fool you. Once you are gone, she has most likely forgotten about the episode and is playing with her friends and giggling.